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<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1PXM_rOgU7vzck0ohz7INGsJUjca9qAkqbS27KaMKqL_8PilXfyO5l9QxetedW5ph7l8DptDVzZF62lT1TIJJTMGWgOkhnQwMGtYcWjIHzx9V2x4O0SRyLiblxFHCI7nGUxaFIMoQhEA/s1600/Parenting+coordinator.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg1PXM_rOgU7vzck0ohz7INGsJUjca9qAkqbS27KaMKqL_8PilXfyO5l9QxetedW5ph7l8DptDVzZF62lT1TIJJTMGWgOkhnQwMGtYcWjIHzx9V2x4O0SRyLiblxFHCI7nGUxaFIMoQhEA/s1600/Parenting+coordinator.jpg" /></a></div><span style="font-size: small;"><b>And for those with adolescents and teens in Behavior Modification or Boarding Schools, </b><span style="color: #cc0000;">Parent Coordinator</span> is an impartial third party available to assist parents in resolving issues relating to parenting and other family issues prior to their child moving on to their next program or school after wilderness, or prior to graduation or returning home from their residential program. They assist with:</span></div><ul style="color: #990000; font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-size: small;">Clarifying priorities prior to returning home or moving on to their next program or school</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Developing a parenting plan that meets the needs of the child and the parents</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Exploring possibilities for problem solving</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Developing methods of collaboration in parenting</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Identifying disputed issues</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Reducing misunderstandings </span></li>
</ul><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">This situation is different than when a Parenting Coordinator's assigned by the court. In this situation the goal is not to modify any order, judgment or decree of the court. At times parents decide to divorce just prior to, or while their child is attending their residential treatment program or school. </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">One way to help children through this early stage is have the assistance of a <span style="color: blue;">Parenting Coordinator</span> to openly discuss what is happening in the family. In some cases, it makes more sense for children to hear about the decision to separate from both parents who have additional support. </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">If this is the case, the <b>Parent Coordinator</b> makes sure that they works with your child's therapist. They repeatedly tell your child that both parents will always love them and that you will always be a family. The difference will be that when they return there will be two households. This is where a Parenting Plan can assist.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEis0gYakyLAptP_8gJak3bq1boYxUVavTz4DGM4kwYFJ_KNMV6AN9sInn8fJPE3hc1lFAuXY8dL0qgsmSc1FdmZtG64oACPZQ3IiCip8BIfghnejXthMBhICCbJlXpzpPzl56XbW3jaYrw/s1600/Parenting+divorce.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="133" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEis0gYakyLAptP_8gJak3bq1boYxUVavTz4DGM4kwYFJ_KNMV6AN9sInn8fJPE3hc1lFAuXY8dL0qgsmSc1FdmZtG64oACPZQ3IiCip8BIfghnejXthMBhICCbJlXpzpPzl56XbW3jaYrw/s200/Parenting+divorce.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><span style="font-size: small;">The <i><b>Parenting Plan</b></i> addresses any concerns the child may have like the need to maintain a relationship with both parents. It is very important that your children understand their relationship with both parents is forever and that they will never be abandoned. The Parent Coordinator can help explain that a divorce does not end your child's relationship with either parent. The marriage may end, however, the parent-child relationship will continue Generally, for a child in a youth program or boarding school, short, clear explanations are best. Remember they do not have to understand everything all at once.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">Their understanding of your divorce will evolve as they get older and will change with their age. It is also a benefit that we will be able to work with their therapist in their behavior modification program or boarding school which means they will receive additional support. Another important message for kids to hear is that in no way is the divorce their fault, nor are they able to keep you together. When the idea of parents separating is completely new to your child, reinforce to them that you will make every effort to keep things stable for them. At the same time, let them know about upcoming changes. Remember children will ask the same questions repeatedly. This is normal and is their way of gaining a sense of security and reassurance about the future. It is important to keep your answers simple and consistent.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTkjR6sdalgt3oA61itd5TrfJ8ZB4YUpj8TiA-j8X_8xsZEZZRWqk1EU_2rH_9aDUwzrav2CuS5b4weUTGOfMRtBoxGQ0t28y2VNSFqi8DAbjZ4n2RZzztLX2vNmrdVs3vhnAotS16xYM/s1600/Parenting+fight.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiTkjR6sdalgt3oA61itd5TrfJ8ZB4YUpj8TiA-j8X_8xsZEZZRWqk1EU_2rH_9aDUwzrav2CuS5b4weUTGOfMRtBoxGQ0t28y2VNSFqi8DAbjZ4n2RZzztLX2vNmrdVs3vhnAotS16xYM/s1600/Parenting+fight.jpg" /></a><span style="font-size: small;">It is very important that both parents reinforce that the separation/divorce is taking place because of differences between the parents. Working with your child's therapist in their program helps you conduct such conversations without damaging or disparaging remarks about the other parent. Children adjust more easily when parents show a healthy sense of respect and caring for the other parent despite difficult circumstances. Co-parenting responsibilities apply to all parents whether they are married or divorced.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">The extent that parents can effectively co-parent their children greatly determines how children will adjust after returning home from their emotional growth program or school. Parents who have a child returning home after graduation or completion of their program will now have to start dealing with more day-to-day issues concerning their child's welfare. Decisions, like those concerning religion, discipline, finances, morality, recreation, physical health, education and emergencies need to be discussed prior to their coming home. </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">These decisions need to be discussed and made jointly. Remember that married parents often have differing ideas about all or some of these issues. This is to be expected. There is no reason to assume that divorced parents should always agree on them either. What's important is how you deal with differences, not that they exist. It is better for parents to agree to disagree and practice compromising than to argue and fight endlessly for their own way. This, however, is often easier said than done.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">Parents who chose their battles and cooperate when there are differences are more likely to make healthy decisions for their children. In fact, nurturing an overall spirit of cooperation is more important than parents agreeing on any one particular issue. Also, <span style="color: blue;">parents who acknowledge and effectively deal</span> with their own difficult feelings usually have an easier time. On the other hand, recurrent arguments between parents make life difficult for children and parents alike. When parents fight for their own agenda and neglect creating a peaceful environment, their children may develop bitter feelings and have difficulties later in life with their own intimate relationships. Remembering to relate maturely and with a healthy sense of respect for the other parent (even in the face of great differences and in some cases bad feelings) is the challenge for every parent. </span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">Fostering such an environment teaches children much about love, life, change, and family relationships. Being in a family style program or outdoor school brings about many changes in the lives of both parents and children. One change for children may be in their immediate support network. This might mean a loss of friendships and school ties. <span style="color: blue;">Some parents move to a new community before their child returns home.</span> This move might also include changing relationships with extended family members. To minimize stress on your children and ultimately yourself, work to keep your lifestyle close to what it was prior to your child being in their residential program or school.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: blue;">When possible, keep friends, family, school, and other community support systems stable.</span> When changes are necessary, make sure you give your children ample notice about them and discuss them with your child's therapist while still in their program. The more comfortable parents are with such changes the more comfortable their children will be. In the days just after your child returns home from their youth program, or wilderness program there is usually an adjustment period that can last for several weeks and oftentimes several months. During this time, people are adjusting to new routines, schedules, and living situations. It may take time for life to seem normal again. Don't worry, eventually it will. Some kids are open about their feelings and the associated changes they experience. Others will be less vocal.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmEWx2XLEcBtSx1BY5HJYvuLVn-ByCqqzE7xtKfwwxrfZpad7PGK7r9mur85sGM-3yHAzid8YVQ3VKoCARXMYebIPyQN1ePxpbVUPAp9DY_ch0Jw82QUX0-EefiodXiGMEl3jhb24qDs0/s1600/Positive+Parenting+plans.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="132" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmEWx2XLEcBtSx1BY5HJYvuLVn-ByCqqzE7xtKfwwxrfZpad7PGK7r9mur85sGM-3yHAzid8YVQ3VKoCARXMYebIPyQN1ePxpbVUPAp9DY_ch0Jw82QUX0-EefiodXiGMEl3jhb24qDs0/s200/Positive+Parenting+plans.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">Make room for whatever your children are experiencing. It is a mistake to believe kids must talk about their feelings. <b>Sample Checklist for a stable home environment after your child returns home from their program: </b></span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><ul><li><span style="font-size: small;">Avoid too frequent changeovers between homes if this is a two household family. </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Be nurturing, supportive, and available.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Create routines and schedules.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Develop a firm parenting schedule that provides frequent and regular contact with the nonresident parent.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Do not burden children with adult responsibilities.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Do not rely on children to be your confidants or companions.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">End parental conflict, at least within the child's earshot.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Provide clear rules and limits and be consistent</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Support children's relationships with their other parent and that parent's extended family.</span><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: small;">Seek out other sources of social support for your children.</span></li>
</ul></div><ul style="text-align: left;"></ul><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">A well-thought-out and executed parenting plan is an important tool for ensuring the health and well being of your children. A good parenting plan will outline how you will perform co-parenting responsibilities.</span></div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><br />
</div><div style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: small;">Children are our most precious resource. We must protect them from undue hurt and turmoil.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;">Hope the above article helped you to understand your responsibilities, role of <i style="color: blue;">parenting coordinator</i> and how to <i style="color: blue;">plan positive parenting</i>. </span></div></div>

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